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October 15, 2022

With so many boys left to the fend for themselves, the claws of social media, television, videogames, and the internet have grabbed hold and corrupted them at a time when they are most vulnerable to outside influences.  Since observational learning plays a critical role in development, studies have shown how this exposure is linked to anger, violence, and anxiety.  What chance do our boys have if the behavior of snakes and sharks is the primary source of guidance? 

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While the absence of a father in the home has been shown to negatively impact children, the traditional family does not guarantee a positive impact.  Parents must model the behavior and live the values they hope to instill in their children.  This is important for both girls and boys; however, this article will focus on the significant role a father’s behavior plays in the development of his sons.

There are numerous articles written about a generation of men who fall prey to “toxic masculinity,” which leads to sexism, aggression, violence, and suppression of emotions.  What better way to manipulate a gender-confused society then to attribute all male anger, violence, and sexism to masculinity?  Other significant factors such as boys who are raised without a father, have poor role models, or have suffered abuse are minimized or purposely disregarded.  This permits fitting all of these destructive male behaviors under the same umbrella, allowing the gender fanatics to demonize and pervert masculinity, thereby providing cover for turning boys into their “new version” of men.

Be tough, but in a sensitive way; be competitive, but focus on your opponent’s feelings; be confident, but show your vulnerability.  How is this supposed to work?  We are asking a generation of testosterone-filled adolescent males to do the impossible.  It is easier for them to just escape and engage in undesirable behaviors, such as listening to music that degrades women, playing a game that promotes violence and numbs the senses, and viewing pornographic images and videos on the internet.  After such destructive behavior, is he supposed to sit with his girlfriend and talk about his feelings?  Houston, we have a problem.

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I believe there are six critical areas in which a father’s behavior will lay the necessary foundation for teaching boys how to become productive, respectable, and desirable men.

Relationship with his wife

When a woman wholeheartedly gives herself to a man in mind, body, and spirit, it should never be taken for granted.  Other than God’s love and mercy, this is the greatest gift a man could ever receive.  A good husband will acknowledge this gift and through his actions model how to reciprocate a wife’s faithfulness, love, and kindness.

He will view his wife not through a lens of expectation, but through a lens of respect and tenderness.  When a husband views his wife through this lens, his love and appreciation for her will grow without bound.  Her beauty will never fade, her touch will always comfort, and her mere presence will make him want to become a better man.  This will be visible to all, especially his son.

Faith

It is when man understands his insignificance through serving an almighty God that he will truly be set free.  In a world that lacks selflessness and humility, a father who lives these virtues is sowing the seeds of faith in the fertile soil of a young boy.  Our godless schools and perverted secular society taint the innocence of childhood and spread the seeds of darkness, creating Mordor on Earth.  A father’s faith plays a critical role in battling these demonic forces.